15. March 2009 by admin.

Perhaps when you, like millions of others, myself included , were young and got battered around and rejected a lot in these years, built on physical and emotional bruises and injuries, what you and most of us developed was a sense of inferiority. We took this inferiority into the primary school age where imagination must be stimulated, and opportunities for emotional development must be provided. When nobody ever asked us, what we were feeling, what we were experiencing, why we did certain things, or told us they loved us, and that we’re wanted; feelings of sadness, grief, loss, hopelesness, despair, and even rage, become suppresed together, and our emotional and academic development suffered greatly.

So chaotic our childhood became that we focused on survival and could not afford to pay attention to what we felt passionate about. We needed hope, motivation, and a way to communicate, and without them, we mostly felt out of control, a stranger in a strange land, and attempted to gain control by rigid self-definition as well as, rigid judgement of others.

So present-focused we became most of our life, that we were unable to plan and control social interactions, and therefore sought to freeze-frame everyone else into predictable patterns. We struggled to get a sense of focus on things, and went inward, losing recognition of how social circumstances and the behavior of others changes from moment to moment. Throughout childhood, energy was pulled within to deal with the internal crisis of shaking the mood of darkness that decended upon us. We may not have looked it, but we were working hard at an extremely slow pace to return some joy to our lives.

In growing up, many of us fell into depression as a result of failure experience, possibly linked to Attention Difference. No matter how we tried we couldn’t seem to control ourselves and behave like other kids. Our self esteem took such a battering that eventually we came to see ourselves as an incompetent failure. Through the assimilation and accommodation mechanism, a change in our brain chemistry threw our serotonin levels off and locked in our depressed mood.

Many of us also experienced obsessions and phobias as a result of lowered serotonin, which unknowingly to us, caused low-level depression. As an obsessing child we were using so much energy to suppress our obsessions that we became apathetic and listless.

Eventually our life situation beame, not surprisingly, mostly one of depression, deriving not merely from dissatisfaction with external life or hormonal imbalance, but steming from a disconnection with the depths of an authentic soul life.

I believe the way we were raised, from conception, is ultimately the reason we are the way we are. I would say that with many, many of us, it’s been a life of little or no emotional response, where nothing has ever grabed us and fed us huge amounts of information, probably because of our life situations of unconnectendess, terror, absurdity, depression, and sorrorfulness; with us relating to people as objects useful only for our needs.

The greatest poverty is to feel unwanted and unloved; and not knowing what to do about it.

JA
 

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5. March 2009 by admin.

  You may tell yourself that life is good enough — but if it could get a whole lot more peaceful, wouldn’t you want to know that now rather than find it out later?  If so, here’s a suggestion.  Live in a way that lets you be your authentic self.  This is characterized by confidence, hope, optimism, joy and purpose, and is the “you” that can be found at your absolute core.  This is the part of you that is not defined by your job, or your function, or your life situations.  This is the composite of all your unique gifts, skills, abilities, interests, talents, insights, and most importantly, spirtual wisdom.

  Make this a cardinal rule……..never, never allow someone else to define you based on how they perceive you.  And……..be aware that people will react toxically to you becoming consistent with your authentic self.  If you know this you won’t be sabotaged along your path of spirtual wisdom.   

  The path with no obstacles probably won’t lead you anywhere except where you were headed.  The path with obstacles, however, could very well lead you eventually into a world powered by the intellect, and governed by the grace of wisdom, both attained from highly evolved practices having embraced all learners, from all spheres of life, for millennia.  “By such knowledge are you bettered; by such wisdom, is the world.”  This path allows for your exploring and finding the light of exemplary spiritual knowledge and consciousness that has always exisited for all that yearn for it. 

  Such knowledge, however, is a burden if it robs you of innocence, a burden if it makes you feel you are special, a burden if it gives you an idea that you are wise, a burden if it is not intergrated into life, a burden if it does not bring you joy, a burden if it does not set you free.

  
   Probably yours and most certainly most others’ spiritual consciousness development is currently in a static condition, and not an evolving one.  This is because yours and others’ strict adherence to perspectives presented thousands of years ago, reflecting the state of development of that population, is to deny that spirtual progress has been made by humanity….and to restrict itself to that level of limitation.  I strongly suggest you beware of the restrictions imposed by religious organizations, which believe that anything outside of their original scripture is sacrilege or inspired by dark forces….and are a reflection of their fear.

  
   Disciplined emotion and disciplined thought are skills that must be cultivated by you and all of humanity in truly being able to make a difference for the overall well-being of humanity.  They are skills that you cannot master too soon, and are skills that will rid you of ignorance, selfishness, superstition, and beliefs in the stories that get civilization in trouble….that the goal of humanity is to dominate and conquer the Earth, that consumption is a high and positive value, that population growth is both necessary and good.  All who encompass the human species can develop a good heart, and a sense of universal responsibility, without clinging to their religious doctrines and dogmas which advocate and are known to celebrate the forces of physical and structural violence.

  
   Think about this:  All great truths begin as blasphemies and every religion is true one way or another.  It is true when understood metaphorically.  But when it gets stuck in its own metaphors, interpreting them as facts, then you are in trouble.  Truth is not defined by political power, nor by religious conviction.  Truth is not determined by human desire, nor by human decree.  Rather truth is the harmonization of the human mind and heart with what is.

  
   Know:  The creation of your emotional climate has more to do with your inner preferences than your external environment;  The key to a more balanced and satisfying life is believing in your heart that who you are is enough;  The ultimate gift of a highly evolved spirtual consciousness is a sense of the mystery that encompasses it;  Nothing can bring you peace like the triumph of principles.

  
   Take time:  To relax and experience life …. To allow for some downtown …. To never engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed person …. To not take your thoughts too seriously…. To know any insight you may have, without action, renders you totally asleep at the wheel.

JA    
 
 

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